Transform Your Thinking

By holding a broomstick,anyone can clean the home.Turn off your thoughts if you think that it is associated with women.This cleaning tool regardless of the sex helps to clean the home when it is handled properly.Broomstick doesn't know to distinguish the sex like human beings.

Touching the broomstick won't affect the dignity of a person.In real,keeping the home unclean only lowers the dignity of its family members.

The Indian Society and the Thoughts to be changed

"The head of the family,supposed male gender touching the broomstick is not good for the family".

"Being a men,touching the broomstick affects our dignity".

If your mind is equipped with these kind of  thoughts-Please, change your thoughts and understand the reality.

A small incident,'A woman after completing her day's work went to her bed tiredly to retire'.At that time unknowingly her husband messed up the bedroom.Then the supposed head of the family started shouting as his place to sleep becomes dirty.she turned her face without caring his words.Other family members were watching the couple with eyebrows raised.'

The whole family is expecting for the tired woman to clean the bedroom.If men say something,immediately women have to obey.when men are awake,women musn't sleep.She has to go around and do what men need until he sleeps.

The whole family made her feel guilty for not doing his spouse needs.So herself she felt bad and cleaned the room.

In this incident,she was tired so she doesn't want to...

For all women if you feel you are correct,don't worry about the society and their weird thoughts.Be bold.Even the whole society threatens you with their weird thoughts you don't bend down when you are correct.

Usually society makes the women more conscious about their work right from their childhood and this mindset prevails among all women irrespective of their education and job.The weird thoughts which are implanted in them by the society must get changed.

Washing the vessels,cooking,cleaning the home,changing the pee and poo of kids are the works meant for women and it has to be done conditionally by a woman even if she is sleeping,eating or suffering from ill health or at any cost.

If anyone thinks that men has no role to play here,please change your thoughts.

Most of the women,thinking all this as their own work,doing it,without expecting from the men.

Another incident,'A woman cooked and served the whole family.Finally when she started eating,her son wetted his pants.Immediately her husband uttered,'Please clean his pant' and walked away.

If you are an alarm giving husband,please change your thoughts and help your spouse.Just think about her stomach and hunger inside it.

Then everyone has an allergy to poo and pee and so please stop treating woman as cleaner.Pee and poo will get washed off even if it is getting washed by men.

Same way if she suffers from ill health,please help her in doing household works.

Turning unhuman or failing to do the responsibility only affects the dignity of a person.Touching broomstick or washing pee wont let you go down.

Be a responsible father,responsible member of the family,share the work and help each other.

Unanimously,each and everyone in the family must think that "This is my home and I have to keep it clean". If you are not responsible inside the family itself,how you can be a responsible citizen?

In most of the Indian families,women are facing these kind of problems and are suffering from stress and depression.Instead of raising your eyebrows and finding fault,please help each other and live happily.Work is not meant for any sex.Please share the work and make your family and world beautiful.

I strongly believe that small changes in each home will bring incredible changes in the whole world.This is  my mission of changing everyone as a responsible family member.And I hope my mission will pave way for my vision of changing everyone as a responsible citizen.

This is my entry for Time to change contest.

Article About Indian Women by Chetan Bhagat in TOI

Alright, this is not cool at all. A recent survey by Nielsen has revealed that Indian women are the most stressed out in the world: 87% of our women feel stressed out most of the time. This statistic alone has caused me to stress out. Even in workaholic America, only 53% women feel stressed.

What are we doing to our women? I'm biased, but Indian women are the most beautiful in the world. As mothers, sisters, daughters, colleagues, wives and girlfriends - we love them. Can you imagine life without the ladies?

For now, i want to give Indian women five suggestions to reduce their stress levels. 

One, don't ever think you are without power. Give it back to that mother-in-law. Be who you are, not someone she wished you would be. She doesn't like you? That's her problem.

Two, if you are doing a good job at work and your boss doesn't value you - tell him that, or quit. Talented, hard-working people are much in demand. 

Three, educate yourself, learn skills, network - figure out ways to be economically independent. So next time your husband tells you that you are not a good enough wife, mother or daughter-in-law, you can tell him to take a hike.

Four, do not ever feel stressed about having a dual responsibility of family and work. It is difficult, but not impossible. The trick is not to expect an A+ in every aspect of your life. You are not taking an exam, and you frankly can't score cent per cent (unless you are in SRCC, of course). It is okay if you don't make four dishes for lunch, one can fill their stomach with one. It is okay if you don't work until midnight and don't get a promotion. Nobody remembers their job designation on their dying day.

Five, most important, don't get competitive with other women. Someone will make a better scrapbook for her school project than you. Another will lose more weight with a better diet. Your neighbour may make a six-dabba tiffin for her husband, you don't - big deal. Do your best, but don't keep looking out for the report card, and definitely don't expect to top the class. There is no ideal woman in this world, and if you strive to become one, there will be only one thing you will achieve for certain - stress.

So breathe, chill, relax. Tell yourself you are beautiful, do your best and deserve a peaceful life. Anybody trying to take that away from you is making a mistake, not you. Your purpose of coming to this earth is not to please everyone. Your purpose is to offer what you have to the world, and have a good life in return. The next time this survey comes, i don't want to see Indian women on top of the list. I want them to be the happiest women in the world. Now smile, before your mother-in-law shouts at you for wasting your time reading the newspaper. 

Cherish Womanhood.